Whensomeonehasdeeplyhurtyou,itcanbeverydifficulttoletyourangergooff.Butforgiveness（原谅）ispossible–anditcanbesurprisinglyhelpfultoyourphysicalandmentalhealth.Indeed,researchhasshownthatpeoplewhoforgivecanhavemoreenergy,betterappetiteandbettersleep.“Peoplewhoforgiveshowlessangerandmorehopefulness,”saysDr.FredericLuskin,whowrotethebookForgiveforGood.“Soitcanhelpsaveonthedamagetooursystemandallowpeopletofeelmoreenergetic.”
Sowhensomeonehashurtyou,cooldownfirst.Takeacoupleofbreathsandthinkofsomethingthatgivesyoupleasure:abeautifulsceneinnature,someoneyoulove.Don’twaitforanapology（道歉）.“Manytimesthepersonwhohurtyoumayneverthinkofapologizing,”saysDr.Luskin.“Theymayhavewantedtohurtyouortheyjustdon’tseethingsthesameway.Soifyouwaitforpeopletosaysorry,youcouldbewaitingaverylongtime.”
Nextkeepinmindthatforgivenessdoesnotnecessarilymeanacceptingtheactionofthepersonwhoworriesyou.Mentallygoingoveryourhurtgivespowertothepersonwhobroughtyoupain.Instead,learntolookforthelove,beautyandkindnessaroundyou.
Finally,trytoseethingsfromtheotherperson’sperspective（看法）.Youmayrealizethatheorshewasactingoutofknowledge,fear–evenlove.Togetperspective,youmaywanttowritealettertoyourselffromthatperson’spointofview.
小题1:What’sthenameofDr.FredericLuskin’sbook?
小题2:Accordingtothewriter,whatshouldyoudofirstafterbeinghurt?
小题3:WhydoesDr.Luskinadviseusnottowaitforanapologyafterbeinghurt?
小题4:What’sthewriter’sideatogetperspective?
小题5:Whatdoesthewritermainlywanttotellusinthepassage?