ItwasalovelydayattheparkandStellaBianchiwasenjoyingthesunshinewithhertwochildrenwhenayoungboyagedaboutfourapproachedhertwo-year-oldsonandpushedhimtotheground.
“I’dwatchedhimforalittlewhileandmysonwasthefourthorfifthchildhe’dshoved”shesays.“Iwentovertothempickedupmysonturnedtotheboyandsaidfirmly‘Nowedon’tpush.’”Whathappenednextwasunexpected.“Theboy’smotherrantowardmefromacrossthepark”Stellasays.“Ithoughtshewascomingovertoapologizebutinsteadshestartedshoutingatmefor‘discipliningherchild’.AllIdidwaslethimknowhisbehaviorwasunacceptable.WasIsupposedtositbackwhileherkiddidwhateverhewantedhurtingotherchildrenintheprocess?”
ProfessorBrendonWhiteofMonashUniversitysays“There’sanideathatchildrenarethepropertyoftheparents.Weseeourchildrenasanextensionofourselvessoifyou’resayingthatmychildisbehavinginappropriatelythenthat’ssomehowacriticismofme.”
Inthosecircumstancesit’sdifficulttoknowwhethertoapproachthechilddirectlyortheparentfirst.“I’dgotothechildfirst”saysAndrewFullerauthorofTrickyKids.“Usuallyaquietreminderthat‘wedon’tdothathere’isenough.Kidshavefinelytunedantennae(直觉)forhowtobehaveindifferentsettings.Andbringingitupwiththeparentfirstmaymakethemfeelneglectfulwhichcouldcauseproblems.
Ofcourseapproachingthechildfirstcanbringitsownheadachestoo.”ThisiswhyWhiterecommendsthatyouapproachtheparentsfirst.“Raiseyourconcernswiththeparentsifthey’rethereandaskthemtodealwithit”hesays. “Menmightfeeluneasyaboutdealingwithotherpeople’schildrenandfeelnervous.Anewsetofconsiderationshasbecomemostimportantaspartofthedebateabouthowwehandlechildren.”
56.Whatdoestheunderlinedword“shoved”probablymean?
A.playedwith B.pushed C.watched D.gotcloseto
57.Whentheboy’smothercameoverStellaBianchiexpectedherto___________.
A.makeanapology B.quarrelwithher
C.disciplineherownboy D.takeherownboyaway
58.Whatshouldonedowhenseeingotherp
